Kate McKenna (Footnote: this is NOT the dress)
I’m knee-deep in wedding planning and I’ve discovered some things along the way that are worth sharing—some wedding real talk.
SET A BUDGET AND STICK WITH IT
This seems like a no-brainer, but I assure you, it’s exceptionally easy for reason to fly out in the window when you’ve got a bottle of pinot grigio and a wheel of Brie on the go, glossy bridal magazines piled in front of you and nine Pinterest windows open at once. Before you start deciding on whether the late night ice cream cart and the charger plates are worth it, figure out what your budget is, break it down by category, and don’t stray. You’ll be thankful when the big day comes and you’re not in the red.
ONCE YOU’VE GOT YOUR DRESS, STOP LOOKING
Again, seems logical—and yet if you don’t unsubscribe from the dress designer Instagram accounts, you’ll inevitably see one that will make you momentarily question your choice even if, in the moment, you were absolutely certain it was the one. Stop looking and save yourself the regret.
(Also, if you don’t cry when you find “the dress,” don’t be alarmed. I didn’t. Reality TV shows about dress buying have set the unreasonable expectation that tears have to flow when the right dress is found. It’s a new dress, not a new baby.)
MAKE IT YOUR OWN
I’ve never been a fan of tradition for tradition’s sake. If you don’t want a cake, don’t have one. If having a formal meal isn’t your jam, opt for a cocktail-style affair. If you don’t want to wear a dress, don’t! And kiss white goodbye if it’s not your colour. The most memorable weddings are the ones with personal touches that reflect the couple. As a pair, figure out what’s important to you and build your day from there.
IF YOU WANT AN OPINION, ASK ONE PERSON
Here’s the thing—the second you ask multiple people for opinions, you’re going to get conflicting responses, and then are you really any better off than when you started? If it’s a fashion question, ask your fashionable friend. If it’s a food question, find your foodie. Trying to consider everyone’s thoughts gets exhausting, quick! And trust me, when it comes to weddings, there are no shortage of opinions.
CONSIDER A DAY-OF PLANNER
I’m cheap. I don’t like to spend if I’m not absolutely sure it’ll be worth it and yet I feel 100 per cent comfortable recommending a day-of planner. Even if you pride yourself on organization, it’s reassuring to know there will be someone at the venue preventing disasters from happening and ensuring you don’t find out about them if they do. I’ve outsourced that role to a family friend who is incredibly on-the-ball and I already breathe easier knowing she’ll be managing the day.
DON’T FORGET YOUR PARTNER
Contrary to popular belief, the wedding isn’t just about the bride. Let your partner have a say, too. You may be surprised to learn that they really do care about certain elements of the day. Give them a few tasks (arranging the DJ, booking the transportation, organizing the honeymoon) and let them run with it. Trust that they’ll come through. They probably will. (And if they don’t, consider it ammo that you can use against them for life!)
REMEMBER, IT’S JUST A DAY
It’s a big day—probably the biggest!—but it’s just a day. Don’t get so bogged down in the details and the to-do lists that you look past the fact that it’s essentially a party with your friends and family and lots of food. What’s not to love about that?
If you’ve been there, or you’re there now, send me your tips
. I’d love to hear them!